10 signs he's not the 1...

1. If you've been dating 6 months to a year and you can count on your fingers the number of times he's invited you over. Chances are he is not the 1. If a guy is into you he values time with you. He esp values alone time and wants you to get to know him Exceptions to the rule if he happens to stay with his mom or "she lives with him". 2. When your around him you feel a lower scense of self. Your man should challenge you to think at the most but, you should never feel less than in his presence. If you have a history of low self esteem you should find someone who is encouraging and sees the best qualities in you. 3. There is a saying "a zebra never looses it's stripes". Past history usually dictates future behavior. People can change but they have to have a strong desire to change. If he has a history of any sort cheating, mental/physical abuse, womanizing be prepared to endure what the chicks before you broke free from. 4. If your falling in love but you feel your dating yourself. This means you feel little support from your guy. If you can't depend on him finacially, emotional, or spiritually that may pose a problem. Of course you should 1st give these things to yourself but you should feel confident if there is a need for 1 he can pick up the slack periodically. 5. Tick tock tick tock. Show me where a man spends his time I'll show you his treasure. Meaning men value their time. What ever he spends his time doing the most is what he values the most. If your in a relationship but he never can find time for you...you may not be a priority in his life. 6. This and number 5 go hand and hand the "quality" of th time you do spend together. Is he always texting when you are alone? Does he consider the things you like to do? Will he cancel his plans for yours from time to time? Is he supportive of the events and things important to you? 7. Your friends and family indicators. I will be the 1st person to say "live your life". However, friends and family can be great indicators. Does he get along with any of your family members? If so which ones and what's the driving force behind their bond? If you have children how do they act around him? What are their thoughts when he's not around? 8. Speaking of family how is his relationship with his mom? Have you met her within your courtship? How does she speak to and about her son? How does he speak to and about his mom? A guys relationship with his mom is the first relationship he has with a woman. If that relationship is estranged..good luck. Just remember no matter how badly he talks about his mom you still stay nuetral. She's still his mom. 9. Most man value what they do and how they can provide. This is why few men marry women who make more money than they do. As women we measure according to our relationships and family. Men the complete opposite. If he finacially depends on you be prepared for resentment and a rocky relationship. Granted we all hit walls and can't control our finacial status sometimes. Of course he wants you to hold him down if things get tight. Just not a forever thing. So if your always footing the bill don't look to get money thrown at you if and when he attains. Most likely he will go for the girl he couldn't get because he didn't have the money or stability. 10. Last but not least he's not the one if you don't want yourchildren (present future) to be like him. As women we always dream big for our children usually more than we do for ourselves. Ask yourself..would I want my daughter to date a guy like him? Do I want my son to be like him? If no then you hav to ask yourself what qualities are important to you and why have you settled?